Baby watch update

They are using cytotec to prepare Little Red to receive pitocin to induce true labor contractions. So far, 3 doses of cytotec have been given and both she and baby are tolerating them well so that's the good news. I hear the word, "Cytotec" and mentally freak out, as any homebirther would. But I had to back up and weigh the information -- what percentage of moms have problems on Cytotec? A very small percentage. And what percentage of moms have problems during homebirth? A very small percentage. Yet, the possibility of disaster exists in both situations and yet I choose a homebirth. What are Little Red's options right now? 1. leave her pregnant which is dangerous, 2. automatic c-section, or 3. go with the cytotec and attempt a natural delivery. It seems to be the best choice among three not-so-hot options.

She went from being 0% effaced to 50% with mild, regular contractions. That's great news! It means a body that is totally not ready to birth a baby is co-operating with being forced.

Keep praying -- looks like baby will be along sometime Sunday.

Induction happening today

Little Red will be induced at 3 p.m. this afternoon. Baby looks healthy enough to attempt natural delivery. L.R.'s numbers, however, are not getting better which could quickly lead to distress for baby. Safer on the outside than on the inside at this point.

If you're the praying type, please keep my d-i-l, stepson, and grandson in prayer.

And I think I'm going to have the baby call me 'Aggie' for A.G. or Awesome Gramma. :-) Figure that nickname isn't taken yet in the family.

Daughter-in-law update

So far Little Red is doing okay. While her liver enzymes are extremely elevated, baby seems to be doing well still. They are treating the liver issue with meds, giving her steroid injections to help develop Spencer's lungs, and waiting. There are no immediate plans to deliver, but that could change at any time as it seems liver issues can go south quickly, putting baby at risk. I'm a huge home-birth advocate but I would want my rear parked in a hospital bed if I were in this situation. I'm just glad she's getting good care and that her doctor was listening when she complained of itching.

Pregnancy Complications for daughter-in-law

If you're the praying sort -- please keep my daughter-in-law in prayer. She is currently 33 weeks pregnant with #1 and was told, after dr. received test results, to go directly to labor-and-delivery instead of to her OB appointment.

Currently they have no idea what the problem is or what the plan is. She was told yesterday she'd probably have to deliver by 36 weeks because of reduced liver function. Now? It's anyone's guess. But being ordered to he hospital is frightening.

Will keep you all posted as info is available.

Thoughts on miscarriage

Why is it that couples hesitate to announce they're pregnant until the first trimester is over? If it's just that you're savoring holding the secret to yourself, go for it. But I know for many people it's because the chance of miscarriage is greatly reduced by the beginning of the second trimester. They're afraid that if they tell, something will go wrong and they'll have to announce the death of their unborn child. But, if a miscarriage should happen isn't it easier to deal with if people KNOW why you're grieving than trying to hide it?

I do speak from experience. Hubby and I experienced a fairly early on miscarriage almost 8 years ago. I started bleeding at 9 weeks and had an ultrasound which showed no heartbeat and that baby had stopped growing at about 6 weeks. Because everyone already knew I was pregnant, they knew about the miscarriage. It didn't bother me. I received some very sweet phone calls from women who'd had similar experiences and was allowed time to recuperate. It was nice to have the down time -- the time to grieve our loss.

For some reason people treat miscarriages like breast cancer used to be treated. It's hush-hush business, almost like the mother did something wrong that can't be spoken aloud. How sad is that? That a grieving mother doesn't have the understanding and support of those surrounding her? That she must grieve the loss of a child alone, silently holding in the pain? Just because she never had the chance to hold the child, never got to know the child doesn't make the loss any less real.

Miscarriage is NOT a shameful thing. It isn't the mother's fault and it IS emotionally painful. If you've had a miscarriage, share the experience with another mother in pain. If you are still grieving seek out support, know that your pain is real and valid. Be brave enough to tell people. Somehow talking about the baby we lost made it easier to cope. Made him (or her) real. Name your child. Even if you don't know the sex of the child, go with your gut instinct and give your child a name. He or she was real. He or she was your child, if only for a short time. Both mourn and celebrate the little life that was over too soon.

It's not too late.